As many of you know, Ian and I did not have a wedding. I know it sounds strange, but it really wasn’t important to us at the time. Ian proposed (unexpectedly!) during a time of uncertainty in my life (lucky for him, I was definitely certain that I wanted him in my life forever! :P). My relationships with some friends and members of my family were complicated and the idea of gathering together to celebrate something important and special just didn’t seem appealing to me. Plus, I just had Malakai and I really wanted to enjoy being a mom rather than be consumed with planning a wedding.
So we ran away. Kind of. We got married in a courthouse in San Bernardino. My sister and our good friend Thomas were there. I bought a pretty, white dress from Victoria’s Secret. We said our vows, he kissed his bride, and then we went out to Claim Jumpers and drank champagne.
I know to most of you, it doesn’t seem very glamorous or romantic. But it was! Because that was the day that I got to marry the man of my dreams!
I think it worked out for the best, really. If we had a big wedding during that time, it wouldn’t have been everything I wanted. My priorities would have been so different. I wasn’t into photography so I probably would have skimped on a photographer. I wasn’t into weddings AT ALL at the time and honestly, I probably wouldn’t have even known where to start. I was never one of those girls who dreamed about their wedding day and I knew very little about them at the time (3 years is a long time. I was still primarily using MySpace!). Pinterest wasn’t around so I didn’t have such a wide variety of
ideas to steal inspiration!
All in all, I like that it worked out this way. I study weddings like there will be a test on them later. I have a better idea of who we are as a couple and what’s important to us. We are definitely having a wedding (hopefully for our 5 year anniversary in 2014!) and I am super excited for it because it will be the wedding of my dreams!
I already have some ideas of things I want as far as music, colors, and the dress I want. And I know that things could change over the next couple years, but I can dream, right?
and now, a couple super adorable (non-professional) wedding photos!